The FUCKIT Method: For when you’ve stalled long enough & just want to get it done

Whatever it is—publishing the draft masterpiece you wrote 2 months ago, asking the person you admire to collaborate on a project, going on that big solo trip, having the “it’s over” chat, or recording your first SubStack video—you’re not doing it.

And you know why. 

Fear. Masked as:

It’s not the right time.

I will when…

It won’t make a difference.

Who’s even interested?

What if I fail?

You know putting yourself out there in new ways is risky. It’s not innate to willingly step into the line of fire, especially when your mind’s come up with all the ways you’re gonna get fucked and your nervous system is so riled up for any threat  that you go into FULL BODY SHUTDOWN.

So give yourself grace.

And let’s give your nervous system and mind some love by doing a quick cognitive reframe. Because you know the saying,

When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. —Max Planck

Turning the ‘What if’ into ‘Or…’

That line of fire you’re avoiding…what if there’s no fire and it’s a line of supporters cheering you on for boldly doing what scared you?

What if no one’s interested…OR…what if someone receives your words they so needed today?

What if I fail…OR…what if you get the YES?

What if it doesn’t make a difference…OR…what if you get to feel good about yourself for getting to the other side of what you’ve been resisting?

What if I’m not ready yet…OR…you just say fuck it and do the thing simply because you’re tired of not doing it?

Using this simple ‘OR’ technique is a cognitive reframing tool that comes in handy when your mind’s running rampant with all the reasons things won’t work out.

Try it and notice how your body starts to feel more expansive. Your nervous system uncoils. Your mind chills out. And your heart opens back up to the real possibility that you will be embraced and supported in the most beautiful ways possible.

The FUCKIT Method

For an extra dose of love to accompany you as you go for it, I’m sharing access to my FUCKIT Method.

This 15-minute training was recorded back in 2019 for my community of VIP clients and students who were learning from me how to be visible as industry leaders online. While the theme is visibility and thought leadership, you can just as easily apply the FUCKIT Method to asking that someone you’ve been eyeing out on a date. Or deciding to wear the fabulous dress (that will draw attention to you) to the dinner party.

Watch the video here:

https://youtu.be/Pn84mfBW3tQ?si=_Umm5Jp9vzomnh0N

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Now it’s your turn.

What’s been your biggest ‘what if’ that’s stopped you in the past?

What ‘OR’ can you create today to get past the threshold?

And! Let me know how you used the FUCKIT Method and what happened.

🌹Gladys